When I tell people that I scuba dive the most common response is confusion. Most people simply can’t imagine what pleasure there is in diving when you can’t see anything  around you in the water. Perhaps there are some blind folks that would hate the whole experience but today I wanted to write some thoughts about why I love diving and think the Dive Pirates Foundation is doing some amazing work.

I spent last week down in the Cayman Islands and had an absolute blast! I’m sure some people go on vacation to forget about the “real world” and use it as an escape. Every time I go on a trip like this though I try to use it to learn something about myself. What I find joy in, what makes me feel fulfilled, and what sort of balance I should find in my life to maintain those sorts of feelings. This post won’t contain specific stories from the trip. If you want those make sure to listen to episode 16 of the podcast where they’ll be covered in depth.

For me, diving is a meditative experience. There were plenty of dives where I got to feel different types of coral and sea life but I also spent an entire dive just laying on the bottom of the ocean just thinking about life. Diving is an amazing way for me to tune out the noise of the world and focus inward instead. 

One of the things I’ve learned about myself is that I won’t do something simply because that’s what society thinks I should do. I have to find the motivation within myself and then I can take my life in a new direction. School is an example of this. I’ve always planned on going back but the time has never felt right. I’ve been focused on my children and mixed throughout are trips like this where I’m able to examine my life and really think about what direction I want to go.

It’s definitely not necessary to fly all the way to the Cayman to do this but stepping outside my normal life and thinking about where I want to take it gives me a clarity that is much harder to find sitting at home. I don’t do it to escape from life but rather to think in depth and without distraction about what I want to do.

One of the things I took away from this trip is that I need to focus more on the simple pleasures in life. I need to be more present. Normally I feel like I do a good job with this but when I left the internet behind I realized how many good experiences I’m potentially missing simply by being so connected online.

When I left and shut my phone off I didn’t really know what to do at first. I felt bored until I decided to just start talking with the people around me. I met some unfiltered, passionate, politically motivated, odd jobs that just wanted to talk about all the things wrong in the world and why it’s the fault of everyone that doesn’t belong to their way of thinking. I met a lady that regularly flies back and forth between the US and the slums in Kenya to give children educations. And I met a Cayman local about my age that never wears shoes unless he’s traveling internationally. The stories were unique, the perspectives interesting, and I most likely would have missed it all if I would have had my phone in my hand. I found myself wondering how much we all miss out on because we’re so busy reading what everyone else is doing with their lives.

I’m not saying burn your phones and get rid of the internet. I mean, how would you read these posts and listen to our podcasts without it? That would be very unfortunate. Just like in all things there is a balance that should be discovered and maintained. I encourage you all to stop seeking constant entertainment and focus on really being part of this world we live in. Get involved!

Another thing I learned is that I’m ready to take the next step in my life. I’ve been traveling and having some amazing experiences but after this trip I found myself feeling motivated to improve myself in a new sort of way. I’ve already submitted the paperwork with the VA to return back to school. I finally feel ready to take that plunge and while doing math blind seems daunting I’m excited and ready to start the process! I met some awesome people on this trip and while talking with them, meditating at the bottom of the ocean, and considering my life as a whole, I realized that I want to do more to improve myself. I have no clue what career I want, no idea what I should study in school, but I’m ready to start the process.

This trip gave me the break I needed to examine myself and see what I need to balance my life. I don’t plan on quitting these trips entirely but again, there is a balance that I want to find and I feel like I’m moving in the right direction.

Going diving provides experiences that I’ve never had before and probably would never have had without the Dive Pirates. This trip was a reminder for me that when things get comfortable or simply routine I need to take action to shake things up. My life is about having experiences, not accumulating money and material things. I wouldn’t complain about money if it comes my way but it’s not a goal of mine. I want to be the sort of person that works so I can live rather than one that lives to work.

Huge thanks go out to everyone involved with the Dive Pirates for making this little personal journey of mine possible. Perhaps it would have happened sooner or later without them but they have helped enabled me right now to make more positive changes in my life! If you’re looking for an awesome organization to donate to then give these pirates a look. They’re doing some amazing work!

For more on this story go to: http://malarsie.com/2016/07/02/lessons-from-the-cayman/